What I’ve learned about parenting as a stay-at-home dad | Glen Henry
What I’ve learned about parenting as a stay-at-home dad | Glen Henry
Glen Henry got his superpowers through fatherhood. After leaving behind a job he hated and a manager he didn’t get along with, he went to work for an equally demanding boss: his kids. He shares how he went from thinking he knew it all about being a stay-at-home parent to realizing he knew nothing at all — and how he’s now documenting what he’s learned.
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By far one of the best ted talks. I just followed Beleaf’s personal yt account
I have been a stay at home mom for almost 22 years. Best decision I ever made!!
As a father of two having spent 5 months as a stay-at-home dad, this is quite a precious talk.
am I the only one who busted out in tears lol
This is for those real men, like myself, who love and appreciate their spouse and children to the point where they will do anything that takes real “big balls” including but not limited to:
putting their own ego aside and having it smashed regularly, the silent scorn of your peers/family/culture, denial of profit or accolades over your own people, disregard for the “traditional family” model, self loathing at times, disrespect from the partners friends and family, literally “on ones knees” chasing and cleaning up after children, fear, resentment, self doubt, seemingly spoiled and sometimes ungrateful family, never ending bucket of love and empathy with a smile is the expectation daily. It is the toughest job to stay on. It is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, even when you go out on a tour you are still 100% in the stay at home parent game.
I am right there with you.
Thank you so much
this is awesome!!!!!
Well done Beleaf. So proud of you. God bless!
Awesome.
"The farther makes himself present and the children pursue him." This is exactly how God is He is always waiting for us like a perfect gentleman.
LEt’s go
Realy like this video. Seems to me there a lot of stay at home mums could learn a lot from you. For me, success as a parent is how well your children bring up their own children. I sincerely wish you the best of luck.
This is extremely embarrassing
dam this inflated economy and worthless politicians that push people away form there kids and even worse teen working 2 to 3 jobs to help there parents + fucked up education where teacher pay form there own pocket to support there class students and fend them form armed fools with guns
It is cute and quite relatable but it would have been better if some genuine issues or problems related to parenting were discussed with possible solutions.
Amazing talk! I hope this helps people realize that househusband/housewife is a real job that goes unpaid, and that it’s not a gendered duty. It’s unfortunate there are still so many mysogynists who despise you for fighting for gender equality. But never lose hope! Fight on! They know they’re on the losing side of time.
Отличное выступление! Согласна с ним полностью в том, что иногда бывают моменты эмоционального истощения, именно поэтому, находясь в декретном отпуске, я периодически подрабатываю себе в удовольствие, когда муж меня заменяет в свои выходные дни.
Exactly me in my life right now. But as a single mum. He made very good points. I can tell. But there is one thing, and that is that u really have to be present 160% and so selfaware in that "parenting period of time" so nothing goes wrong.
Even when u r playing with ur child and others thing ooh thats so simple i could do that allday.. its not just that.
i am a stay-at-home mum for 6 years now. thanks for converting my feelings into words. it was amusing and a bit sad but most of all comforting.
you’re a great dad, you have my respect. thanks for standing up for as stay-at-home parents.
cheers to us! 🥂👍
As a fellow stay at home dad, I have had the advantage of bonding with my child on a daily basis in a way that traditional working dads can’t. It’s great. It is scary at first, I admit, but the rewards far outweigh the effort. Not to mention, the time from a one week old baby to a kindergartner goes by really quickly, so you can always return to the traditional workforce (at least part time) then.
Thank you for sharing your journey on here Beleaf. Watching your channel has not only been entertaining but also informative – I’ve been able to get a glimpse of what having a father can look like. What a healthy marriage can look like. Thank you to your whole clan, for being transparent, vulnerable and welcoming the world into your home. I think I speak for most, if not all, beleafers when I say that we are forever grateful and appreciate it!
Great talk. I was part time stay home dad for a couple of years and it’s tough, especially when the 2nd comes along.
Beautiful
This video what so completely obtuse and unironic. I was first dumbfounded and then just offended that TED would drop the bar this low. I kept waiting for the profound part, but it kept getting worse and worse until I realized that this was it, another straight man talking about what women as mothers and caregivers have been saying for centuries and centuries. And that doesn’t even scratch on the interesting or important topics about caregiving that have been studied and discusses. I’m sorry to go full Womyn’s Studies on you all, but I can’t help it. Other than being a man who has experienced something new that women have already experienced and been outspoken about, what gives Glen the authority? For one, what was that dry-erase board thing?? Does Glen know anything about early childhood education? He did say he "read an article" *rolls eyes*. So in that part of the video, Glen begins, "I thought I knew that the best way to teach kids right from wrong was to discipline them…the pain, the fear, that would teach them" (6:14). Unfortunately misinformed. I wonder which powerful, gender-based system of violence, oppression, and control gave Glen those ideas about raising kids… Anyway, then without explaining at all what he’s doing with that poor 2 year old (to us or him?), Glen says he, "makes connections that they can understand". Much better! Very sharp stuff you’ve got there with the dry erase board… Oh, and I hate to rag on his little home made videos, but spewing those irresponsible patriarchal views makes it worth it. The home video clips…were a little painful. The kids were cute, but the videos were clearly staged by the dad, or at least had a big element of "ooOOH let me go grab my camera!" when a stereotypically cute thing happened, like drawing on the walls with crayon while wearing matching superhero masks. And then good on Glen for making up games and taking his children outside? Good on him for giving his enlightened, sensitive perspective to another man too? You’re being a MODERATE parent. You haven’t impressed me at all yet. Honestly, that fictional woman that you made up about the laundry and the child and the dog made me more sympathetic. Not only do women stay at home at significantly higher %’s than men, but women care for children as single mothers at significantly higher %’s than men. Are any of them trending #2 on TED Talks right now? TED Talks, please delete this boring waste of a viewer’s time and find a real, original, well-done, and worthy "Idea Worth Spreading" to replace it. Maybe by a mom?
Great video!!
Beleaf Melanin. I see you.
BELEAF!!🍃
Leaf!! My g!!!
No one died bruh
😂😂
This was extremely heart warming
I feel a lot less alone after watching this. My fiancee doesn’t understand.
I decided to give up my job to help care for family but it basically helped shoot my professional career in the foot. I would have continued working part-time or flexibly but that wasn’t an option – they wanted all or nothing. Seems like workplaces still don’t allow for work-life balance, even though they are supposed to offer that kind of flexibility by law.
Hahaha this is so cute 💕
Thank you sir. You are an excellent example of a wonderful father. I loved your talk.
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P R E A C H.
Stay at home dad here. Being a parent is much harder than any 9-5 job.
Guys a gem
It’s difficult. I started that experience at 20. You can’t hide from it until you make up your mind to be.
Friday, may 6, 4:35 pm
It’s fun here but of word. Song Heng doesn’t live on a farm. His folks have a large apartment in a big old house. The call it a flat. I asked for the bathroom they thought I wanted a bath. I’m learning fast.
My goal before 2020 is to become a stay home dad. First, I gotta find a way to make 6 figure income so I can quit my corporate job. 2nd find a nice gal for my kids. And last, enjoy every min of raising my own kids. It’s much better than giving them up to some stranger in a wicked school system!!
Go Beleaf! You’re an amazing dad and an amazing creator
Im also a stay at home dad.. i love my 1 yr old son so much.. i also work graveyard 56 hours a week.. lol.. burned tf out.. i feel bad i cant raise my son better because im tired.. i do my best..
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Props to that man. I couldn’t be a stay at home dad.
Wow, I genuinely loved this. My Mom has been a stay-at-home parent as well. She never regretted it!
And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. (The Noble Quran. Surah Al Isra. Verse:23)
Say, "Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited to you. [He commands] that you not associate anything with Him, and to parents, good treatment, and do not kill your children out of poverty; We will provide for you and them. And do not approach immoralities – what is apparent of them and what is concealed. And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden [to be killed] except by [legal] right. This has He instructed you that you may use reason." (The Noble
Quran. Surah Al An’am. Verse 151)
And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months. [He grows] until, when he reaches maturity and reaches [the age of] forty years, he says, "My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims." (Surah Al Ahqaf. Verse 15)
http://www.quran.com
This is awesome. I love it!
Good speech Glen, thank you!
Omg! Really powerful