Parenting: Raise Yourself Before You Raise Your Kids – Sadhguru
Parenting: Raise Yourself Before You Raise Your Kids – Sadhguru
Sadhguru looks at how a child needs a friend, not a boss. If we enforce our ideas upon a child, he will lose his sense of independence, and this could result in rebelliousness later on. Once you become a parent, the most important thing is that you have to be 100% straight. You just have to protect them from the wrong influences, the rest let them free, he says. At the same time, they should remain free from your influence, he points out.
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Transcript: http://isha.sadhguru.org/blog/video/parenting-raise-yourself-before-you-raise-your-kids/
Questioner: Pranam Sadhguru. One of the tasks that we are given and trying to do it is to raise the… taking care of the kid… taking care of your children at home, but we are troubled with we… whenever we to make a decision or not to make a decision get troubled with like what to consider or what not to consider. Can you give us some perspective about something that we should think while making a decision or not making a decision for the kids?
Sadhguru: Why are you making all the decisions for them?
Questioner: (Laughs) That’s the trouble. I am sure that I am not the right person to make the decision, but should that be made or not like what do I do when I need to do something?
Sadhguru: Hmm? First thing, we need to understand is children only come through you, they don’t come from you. They are not your property to be conducted whichever way you feel fit. No, they are not. If you treat them as your property or your future investment – if you treat them as such, you are committing a certain sacrilege against Creation and the Creator for which there will be a price. Simply it’ll come in the form of life or maybe it’ll come in the form of your children – the price. Yes, it’ll be very unfortunate to see that. I am saying this – a very cruel thing to say to any parent, but I am saying this because it’s a very cruel thing to parent a child. The child doesn’t need that, but please see in so many ways, you’re doing everything possible to see that he remains dependent on you in some way or the other. You are not thinking of liberating him.
So, the moment you start working, you want your children to be attached to you, isn’t it? Well, you yourself open Bhagavat Gita and read and say ‘You should not be attached, you should not be attached’, you tell your wife ‘See don’t be attached to me so that you don’t ask me when I don’t come home.’ (Laughter) But your children, you want them attached to you. So before you choose to have children, you must think about these things but if already it’s happened, now… at least now you must think about it properly, seriously. One thing is if you want to produce something little better than yourself to the world, hmm? It’s important? If you produce a child, it must be at least one step better than you, isn’t it? If the same nonsense is going to happen once again, what’s the point?
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guruji, i want hindi version of all your vedios for my mother . is that possible?
Teachings worth their weight in gold
what if your in a committed relationship , both have kids from another. both teenage kids do not like each other nor do they want there mom or dad to be together? how do you work around that ?
Humour in serious talk… Simply liked it..!!
Grateful to you guruji… This is true spirituality. different from mere devotion. Thank you.
thanq sadguru.i think i feel like iam understanding something.
"Why are YOU making all the decisions for them?" …."Children come through you, they don’t come from you!" Hope more or us understand…
Thank You ! ❤️
In western countries they let their children go to work and earn their money, makes the child independent. Even better, I feel, introduce them to success philosophy which they can understand at their pace. Most children have learned behaviour, which is what they learn looking at their parents, we cannot teach what we do not possess. Let them learn from able masters.
There will be less trouble in the world if everyone fall in love correctly ( spiritually ), subsequently produce children correctly. The trouble of the world all comes from bad parenting… over and over again, generation after generations of foolishness repeated by unnecessary man-made laws. Every foolish ( result of getting married with false temporary love ) parents think of their children as slaves, as if they are brought on earth so that the children can feed them and bring them gold. Very few true parents that knows their children is sacred and must be free to learn about life.
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Amen! Hearing this was exactly what I needed to start the day fresh with my children. Well said!
Namashkaram sadhguru🙏🙏🙏
nice my sadhguru grandpa. I love you so much…
When I see my nephews playing happily so much joy so much innocence they are always playing we adults don’t even smile once a day . If I get a kid I will send him to Isha foundation school
makes sense !!!
Thought is good . But not practical
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Best speech ever on parenting! Thanks 🙏🏽
Thank u for great teaching ! I will start working to b my son friends.
This guy looks so cool and hes so cool🤓🖒
He is a true guru with natural n real solutions without any conflicts. Bcoz today’s we all r leading a fake n artificial life n going into a dark cell n he is a light. Plz listen sadguru n remove all darkness from yor life.try to be natural n honest with yourself n live n love natural life n follow law of nature.
He is so correct! I try to practice this with my kids and so far it is working well. It builds confidence and a sense of self.
Excellent
A very Good Massage for Parent
I love this, thanks so much, I wanna be a better father.
after this I hope Iwill take drastic action to change my way in parenting!! omg help me!
so beautiful…. This is a true path…. Hail to you. Respect!!!
very nice explanation.
I m going 2 show dis to my parents hope they will understand.
and so the story would continue…plus or minus .
Brilliant. Every parent should watch this video.
Just simply perfect 👌 It’s unfortunate that we humans tend to forgo the most simple things in life abd end up with complex bondages.
Major respect to this man. A very good and true genuine human being. All people before planning to have children should watch this because there are plenty of people who have children as some kind of asset to fulfill something rather than allowing them to grow and flourish themselves.
Sadguru thrashed stupid minds of parents. Jai sadguru maharaj. Your blessings brings well being of society.
I’m experiencing such deep love towards this being. He is lovely and incredibly precious
Beautiful. I never heard anything like from any other eminent people.
I wish I had a father like sadhguru
I love him he is superb
Sir plz release this video in Hindi my mom don’t understand English and I want them to show ur video. we have communication gap n my facing lot of troubles in life. please help me sir
Parents now a days need help desperately with children being raised with Google. Kids are more curious to things because now a days everything is open.
absolutely right.
perfect and very great speech
Thanq Sadguru for the sagely n precious advice to all parents.
I definitely agree
some parents really need this!!
excellent one..!!thank you sadhguru 🙂
awesome….intended to learn a new things about life..
Very true
Sometimes Parents need to make decisions which their child doesn’t agree with but they should always include their children in decisions which affect them. Many parents think they listen to their kids when in fact what they are really doing is telling their kids what to think. They conflate respect and obedience when the two are entirely separate concepts
Perfectly said
Haha my life would have been absolutely miraculous, if I had 1/100th of Sadhguru’s wisdom.
Goosebumps every single time whenever I hear u Sadhguru.
#respect #youAreTheBest 🙂