Parenting | From a Kid’s Perspective
Parenting | From a Kid’s Perspective
https://acityaway.io/ | Been thinking about this topic a lot lately. I’ve been blessed with great parents, and wanted to give how to advice from a kid’s perspective.
I’ve always thought about parenting in terms of two variables: Freedom and Love – each can take true/false values – meaning 4 scenarios.
I don’t believe that freedom and love will solely give your kid success, but I see it as one of the best options for a kid to take their own journey.
I want to thank my mom and dad for giving me and endless amount of freedom and love – and I truly see it as the best way to be a parent. It’s scary, I know, but it allows for true growth.
~ The owner of this website did not create the video you are watching, and does not necessarily share the opinions or views shared within the video.~
Has anyone ever told you that you’re amazing? Well, you are.
You really did hit the nail on the head…I have a mix. My dad really gives me a lot of freedom, of not monitoring me, but is also restricting me in certain ways. Its almost like a garden of Eden. He gives me things I want and love, like lets me get games, lets me talk to people, lets me stay up late, and lets me overall have a good life, in that garden. I rarely go outside really because he simply doesnt want me too. He discourages me from going to the grocery store on my own, and going to the movies with people and shit. He wants me to stay within the closed garden of the family, and doesnt want me to venture out. He isnt open to new ideas, like me taking the train to school, or commuting places on my own. He is somewhat overprotective. But thats just my dad. My mom is really a strong believer of freedom. And my dad is usually at work, meaning I get a lot of freedom, but when my dad comes home from work I feel oppressed almost, scared to do what I want, as he might get angry or disapprove. Recently I got into a relationship with someone. Online. I truly feel like we are soulmates, like we belong with each other, and she feels the same exact way. We facetime all the time and have known each other for half a year. But my dad recently started to monitor my texts and violates my privacy. Trying to keep me in his little garden of Eden. I have learned that this is something that some parents do, to "protect" their kids from the outside world, but usually only sparks some rebellion. Being forced to do things, like go and get something to eat, or be forced to go and watch a movie with my dad. Its a sort of I guess "first world oppression" that I think I am experiencing. Back to the relationship, he disapproves of it since she does smoke weed recreationally on occasion, but she is genuinely a good person, we both love each other lots, and I havent been happier. I got kicked out of school for self defense (some mental kid tried to attack me at lunch), and not being able to talk to my friends at school, put me in a state of depression. And thats when I met her. And she has been there for me during this time where a bunch of shit with my school happened. When I told her that I had feelings for her, and she reacted positively and said she also had feelings for me, I genuinely was happy. Not a kind of depressed state of happy, where you tell yourself that you are happy, when you really deep down arent, but actually a kind of happy where I genuinely felt uplifted. Thats my story for now I guess. This turned from a small comment into a fucking essay…
You are awesome, Bread
you’re so under rated! your content is beautiful!!
Want to leave a more personal comment? Text or call me. +1 (732) – 865 – 6957 (subtract one from the last digit and that’s my number)
Man ! This video was pretty dope.
You have explained parenting in such a nice way.
This was incredible Brad, I loved it.
Respect brother thanks for the advice I will remember this when I have my own kids
This is rad dude, I like this and agree with it too!
Wow! Another Amazing video!
Wow! I’m blown away by your ability to speak so eloquently on the topic of parenting – and your video skills are amazing!! As a clinical psychologist and a Modern Parenting expert, I totally agree with your message.I work with parents and kids all the time and teach them that the 3 elements to raising happy, motivated, and moral kids is providing autonomy, mastery, and relatedness in the home. You’ve intuitively picked up on the fact that if parents don’t give their kids the freedom within a clear set of boundaries to figure things out for themselves (autonomy) while loving them and believing in them (relatedness), then they often don’t mature into their full potential. Thank you for contacting me and sharing your link! Great job!