AUTISM MELTDOWNS | PARENTING AN AUTISTIC CHILD
AUTISM MELTDOWNS | PARENTING AN AUTISTIC CHILD
This week’s Parenting an Autistic Child topic is autism meltdowns, including some discussion of what they are, what they’re like for Andy and how we deal with them before we move on to sharing some of your experiences with meltdowns and then getting in to your questions.
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The first time since he got naked in the Co-op: https://youtu.be/PkXFQYEUJJs
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Hi, I’m Kevin Chapman, a full-time YouTuber, author, podcaster, speaker and occasional teacher from Peterborough, UK. As part of my daily vlog I release new videos every day at 5pm UK time with topics including life as an autism family, conventions and geek culture, technology, education and tutorials and entrepreneurship.
When I left my full-time as a Computer Science teacher in July 2017, my partner, Anna, was trapped in our house by our son Andy, who is autistic and had refused to go to school for 18 months. Our daughters Lucy and Amy and our dog Dave hardly saw me because I was always working to try and solve all our problems! Today I’m a full-time content creator who’s always at home when my kids get home from school (all our kids!) and Anna has been able to return to university. This channel is the story of my family’s ongoing journey! Previously known as lollujo Vlogs.
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My brother has autism and he is 14
In my school we have P.S.H.E where we learn about disability’s and other stuff in life that they don’t teach us in other lessons
How old was Andy when he had his is first meltdown
Any chance u could do gaming vids also
Luckily, my son has not had one in about 6 months. It didn’t last long, but was pretty bad. Put a dent in the wall by slamming his head into it. When I believe one is about to happen, I try to distract him really quickly. Seems to be working. Last thing he wants to hear during a meltdown, is my voice. He will yell or hit the wall if I say anything. They used to last for hours. Now maybe 15-20 minutes.
Great video Kev! Meltdown talk and videos are always needed I’m learning more and more. Something we can all relate to but also a reminder that we are not alone when our child has a hulk like one! Ha thanks for sharing!
Great advice Kev!
One thing I would like to point out is the stimulation can build up over a year or a minute it’s not just over a day I get more and more anxious over time and then explode (well o used to I do DBT now)
Thank you for this vlog, I remember one melt down my lad had, we were in a shopping centre and it was very busy, and he hadn’t had much sleep the night before and he just got to the point where he couldn’t cope anymore. I ended up with him sat screaming on the floor, security crowding round me as it didn’t look a good situation and trying to calm him by myself! Thankfully after a good hour, a countless stares of dissaprovement I did eventually get control of the situation but it took it out of me. I thanked the security staff for there "protection" and they both said we have autistic children and knew exactly what was happening!
sassy rubins don’t be so ignorant – these videos are enormously helpful and informative in educating the general public about autism
How’s Andy’s doctor described how Prozac works is pretty accurate. The anxious thoughts remain—thoughts like everyone has—but the disproportionate reaction is removed. Glad that it’s helped Andy. Im a big advocate of ssri’s for people with bad anxiety like myself
As someone struggling both to understand my own experience as an autistic person and to explain it to others, this is the clearest explanation of the difference between a meltdown and a temper tantrum and was really helpful, thank you.
Thank you so much for this video! I’m only 19 and still learning with my brother after becoming his carer three years ago. You give the best advice and thank you for including my question! X
Stop making money from your sons illness, you should stop waving your camera in his face as he probably doesn’t want you to I mean have you even asked him. I hate people who benefit from others disabilities, I find it disgusting. Instead of filming his meltdowns maybe try and help him.
My meltdowns are caused by at home my brother and sister at school people talking or subjects I don’t like
I have had some really wonderful grocery store employees help when my child was having a difficult time. One guy went to the back and brought her back bubble wrap. A lady florist went and blew up one of those expensive balloons and gave it to her. Thankyou to those that understand we can’t stay prisoner at home. The more trips out the better we learn to cope.❤
u didnt answer my question about why cant Andy naked in his room
I went on different medications before one actually helped make my anxiety lessen. I have never been able to go to school properly or college or uni but thanks to hard work and medications I have just completed college and am going to uni in September :). I love that Andy seems better since the first meltdown video it is great seeing him at school and going out places and enjoying it too, keep up the hard work both of you!
My mum NEEDZ to watch this video
I love his meltdowns he is so cute when he has them
Just referring to the question about children being made aware of disabilities. I’ve worked in a mainstream primary school for three years, supporting children with autism for most of that period. I’ve found that actually, kids are amazingly accepting with other children who are either autistic or have other learning needs. There’s no judgement or exclusion.
There could be more done to educate them maybe when they’re a bit older and can understand it more but like you say, the differences can be so vast that it would be difficult to implement.
I really am enjoying this series!
This was really helpful where waiting for my nephew to have his test to see where on the spectrum he is he’s 4 at the moment so glad your channel popped up on my feed
Love this series ! I was once in a que with my little one at a theme park and it was too much for him now the que was only 7 minutes but he was sat on the floor ripping his finger nails out and screaming at the time he was not fully diognosed so I did not realise there were systems in place for this situation and the staff on the ride called a supervisor over and asked if it was possible for us to have exit passes which in this park allows you to que at the exit away from everybody we were so greatful for the staff spotting us and getting us what we needed because we were so close to writing the day off !! These passes improved our day greatly !
Kevin! Those pop figures. 😍 also you are both awesome parents
You are amazing at explaining this all autistic people’s parents need to see this
Hey Kevin Chapman can we be friends on YouTube
I’ve got that Batman Arkham City statue, my cat bit the head on mine, it still looks good tho. I think my cat was over stimulated looking at all my collectables, maybe.
How come Andy’s that strong if he eats mostly just crisps and some bread? Like where does he get protein to build strength? Does he take supplements or something?
The many views are also due to the fact that Youtube recommends those meltdown videos if you search for autism related videos. That is how I found your vlog. Youtube recommended the meltdown video and I stayed for more.
I could be a little autistic but I mostly have mental health problems and I have meltdowns sometimes
Just a tip for if Andy ever manages to bite anyone as badly as you described him doing to Anna once (and for anyone reading this who has a child or supports someone who is prone to biting), pushing your arm or whatever area the person has a grip on further into or towards their mouth actually works a lot better than trying to pull away, as it puts pressure on the lower jaw and therefore loosens the grip. Of course you have to be careful not to do it too hard so the person doesn’t get hurt.
like the network going off
A topic for next time could be how he handles being poorly or injured. Does he understand that it won’t last forever and medicine doesn’t work the second you take it? Have you ever thought about what would happen if he had to be hospitalized for several days?
Hey I am steph lloyd I am 28 years old I have autism and high aniexty and mild depression and ADD xxx I love to be friends with you xxx I had meltdowns for 23 years the last 5 years I had control my meltdown xxxx I used to hit myself and shout and scream and bite my hand I live in care for 13 years now due to my hit out xxx I have not hit anyone for 12 years xxxx I am really proud of myself xx
I am a 54 year old autistic adult (diagnosed with ASD in 2014) and I have meltdowns more than I am older probably due to combination of fibromyalgia, depression and anxiety. My meltdowns are more severe when I am at home which is due to frustration with equipment and due to my anxiety. I get very agitated in busy places, supermarkets, buses, shopping centres and visiting familiar places. When I out with my autism Intu wrist band when I went to a Intu Shopping centre which caused me a great deal of distress even though I had my support worker with me, the shopping assistant did not see my autism Intu wrist band. Shopping centres and supermarket do not recognise that autistic adults have sensory needs as well as autistic children. I have very severe sensory sensitivities to artificial light, back ground noises, crowds etc and I have stopped going to shopping centres and supermarkets.
Hey, Kevin my name is Jack I’m 16, I just like to say you are my favourite YouTuber due to i can relate to Andy because i have Autism myself and you always find always find a way to cheer me up. So thank you 😀
I love that fit analogy! And reminding people that he’s struggling. I might have to use the fit one at school next time I have one and people start judging me or making fun of me. Thank you for a beautiful, informative video.
Although I have meltdowns that are implosive rather than explosive which I know is a lot less common (becoming somewhat catatonic, unresponsive, maybe being unable to control my muscles including bladder, maybe not being able to eat or talk for a while after, not being able to talk during, dissociation…) so people struggle to understand that it’s a meltdown too
I had a meltdown
the new camera looks so nice
This was really informative video! I thoroughly enjoyed it. I can definitely relate with the whole "Am I (or the people I know) really embarrassed about this?" or "Will I be made fun of?" Kind of like feeling like a doofus or something…? I guess it is what it is though. It seems like medication really made Andy cope a bit better and somewhat made him more mature in a way. I totally agree with that misconception of the Autism population (and other special needs people) of just being a brat or temper tantrumming, I find that super annoying though. I’m definitely starting to love these videos but also miss the normal vlogs, nothing against it though! I think you may or may not have done a vid on this but what is your take on OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) combined with Autism? If you have done it, maybe I can somehow find the video again? Thanks very much! 💙✌🏾️
Another great video Kevin.
love the new intro
Does Andy ever talk to himself in 3rd person during a meltdown? Someone I spopprt will say things to himself like "you’re in trouble now, look what you did, you’ll be going to bed now" immediately afterwards and I just wondered if that’s a common thing for people with autism? I believe the person I support is repeating things that were said to him in the past (he grew up in an institution – we would be never even consider punishment for meltdowns that are beyond his control) Great informative video by the way
25 min vid? Yes pls
Lighting is great kev keep it up m8
Respectfully, especially as Andy has now reached his teenage years, how do you know if he is having a ‘meltdown’ or a temper tantrum?
I had a meltdown at church once because my grandad had just passed and I felt really overwhelmed by everything.
My Mum needs to see this video cause I get told off then I react to my brother and sisters updating me cause u get told off then I hit them ecsetiallty my dad doesn’t understand
Liking the New Setup!
I am part of an autism family. My sister has autism and she can’t speak