6 Surprising Effects of Narcissistic Parenting
6 Surprising Effects of Narcissistic Parenting
A narcissistic parent is a parent affected by narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder. Typically narcissistic parents are exclusively and possessively close to their children and may be especially envious of, and threatened by, their child’s growing independence.
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Yep I have grown up with a alcholic narcissistic father and a mother that has allowed this behaviour all my life making out its normal even arguing with me when I point out the right from wrong im am completely done right now
I would love to see separate episodes based on each of the defense mechanisms you mentioned in your video
My father is the epitome of this word "narcissist" The only money we have should be spent on his books, his clothes which are currently overflowing from his rooms. Me, my mother, my brother and my sister, we have one room for us and a verandah. While the asshole has 4 rooms for himself one of which is a hall. His parents are disgusting creeps who live with us with zero hygiene and manners. I wish these three would die a painful death. The moment I am capable enough I am going to flee from here and never look back.
My older sister became incredibly narcissistic to gain my father’s approval, and has become a helicopter parent to her daughter. As a result, her daughter, one of the sweetest, most kind and caring little girl I’ve ever met in my life, acts much younger than her age because mommy likes babies. My sister is a nurturer however and I never have to worry about my niece. I come from a family of 5 children with a narcissistic and abusive father, and I find it interesting the roles we all took as we grew up.
So daily suicidal thoughts are normal?
What happens when you have a narcissistic mother who became a narcissist because her father was too? 🙁
My father had an abusive childhood, and then became a narcisist. I have social anxiety, and I’m constantly trying not to let people see my insecurance. Now I’m afraid about what my future can offer: Will I develop narcisism myself? 🙁
I- I have all of these 😢
Both of my parents are like this, I cannot stand being home with them. My parents always tell me that they are stressed because of me, and that they wished that they could send me off somewhere to get my shit together. They also flip out over ridiculous things. One time my mom cussed me out because I didn’t put the correct leash on my dog when I took her for a walk.
Yep, my brother in law fits the bill. AND HIS WIFE TREAT THEIR SON THIS WAY.
Oooft ouchie how relatable… dad was a narcissist… skye is becoming more and more like him but im the opposite. With all the self blame and the PTSD… ouchie lmao
Let’s just say that my dad was the type of parent who made me feel insecure and unsafe mentally and physically can’t wait until I’m 18
My mom is an extreme helicopter parent she always ask me what am I doing and snatch my phone away to see what am I watching or doing everytime she see me texting my online friends she will shout,yell,hit, or kick me also she thinks that I am not perfect ugly and fat and her words are now stuck in my mind I wish I can take then out and burn them
My dad is a narcissist and it’s had a really negative impact on me. He’s super manipulative and get’s upset at me for the smallest mistake or if I don’t do something exactly how he wants me to. He’ll also want me to be independent and will make me feel stupid if I don’t just know how to automatically do things right on my own, yet as soon as I try to do anything on my own he will get upset or step in and take over because I’m not doing it right (again making me feel stupid). He’s always right in his mind, and I’m just the child who has to listen and not think for myself (but yet he wants me to think for myself??). I just graduated and he STILL treats me like I know nothing. In recent years I’ve really realized how much this has impacted me. It’s given me severe anxiety and I have a lot of trouble with self-doubt and low confidence. I’m so scared to make any mistakes that I don’t know how to be independent. I had to quit my first job last year because it was giving me so much anxiety… I thought everyone hated me because I asked too many questions and I felt like I wasn’t doing a good job/couldn’t be self-sufficient. In reality, I don’t think it showed as much as I thought it did because my managers didn’t want me to leave, but it just goes to show how much he’s ingrained in me to second guess myself and my worth.
I’m type 6, achievement hungry and extremely nurturing, and single to spare any future kid of the past I had
I have alot of self blame,and that whole section is me 😛
I suffer from verbal abuse a lot from my parents:(
Number 3 is my entire personalty. I feel kinda numb to most things and I don’t trust anyone. Its kinda lonely being this way but I don’t know how to stop it or how to fix myself.
Why am I crying!
I used to be depressed to the point that I wanted to commit suicide and I was taken to a mental hospital for childen. My parents always blamed my sister and I for everything, we were on all kinds of prescription pills. Three years ago, I was taken in by a family from the church that I used to go to and I am now a new person, I am no longer depressed and I am thriving but unfortunately I have to return to my bad parents this Sunday.
Thanks to my therapist for making me watch this and realize this is my dad, and as a result I’m over nurturing and also closed off
One example I can think of is around the time I was getting ready to go to college. One day I overslept and was almost late to go to school. My dad was so upset. He just kept yelling at me. Telling me how irresponsible I was. Throughout all of my years of going to school (kindergarten to high school) I had to have overslept at least less than 5 times. As the days of me going to college kept getting closer the only "words of wisdom" I got from my dad was to set an alarm so that I can stop oversleeping. He kept saying it as if it was something I did regularly and it infuriated me every time he mentioned it. It’s things like that made me feel bad about myself. I don’t think my parents would act this way intentionally though. I think it has to do with how they were raised as kids. I know they love me and I love them too but the way they raised me is definitely not how I’d treat a kid. :
I’m not alone in the world omg!😨
I went to mental breakdown, emotional frustratration and I don’t have any good memory of childhood. During 2015-2016 emotional and mental breakdown low confidence and scared of even other people. During this year I hardly remember anything from my life. It Impacted in many other ways like I can hardly trust people . It made difficult to live life happily. Since 2017 I am aware of what happened with me and i try to ignore and live my life and finally it coming better 🙂
My dad and my step mom are very narcissistic. I just turned 18 years old and I’m not gonna lie I never realized how toxic it has been in my life. It has effected me positively and negatively. I am a very caring person… I do my best to treat everyone how they should and I even want to go into the health field. I am very insecure in my relationships and I am very sensitive and hold my relationships as a very high priority. I think they did an amazing job explaining this and it help me understand and become more self aware about it.
Knowing nothing is my fault releases pressure
my parents are narcissist.
That’s my life. It’s completely ruined certian aspects in my life, and I was always watching how it proccesing and trying to stop breaking me. I doesn’t was know what is going on, I realized that I raising in narcisstic family a few days ago. Right now I am 17 years old and don’t know how to live next.
May be I would wanted to suicide only if it would be less painful… But what is more painful: live with that thing, that makes you heart beating quickly for no reason, being afraid of anything that other people doesn’t afraid and become a person on who jokes every party, live with that noise in ears because of neurotic troubles and many another painful things or just jump down from 15 floors with knuckled hands and feet and experience a few seconds of stars around eyes… hmm. Nope, I am not sure what I want to die… but it seems like I completely ruined and will never be good at anythig. Like one of symptoms says. I don’t want to be abuse to another people…
Me I have been the care taker and deal with insecurity. I took abuse for my mothers happiness. I think also I swing to a place of strait narsissism. I’m confused sometimes but I stoke to what I learn from God. Love everyone and respect boundaries even though it brings me extreme heart break at times.
Is it werd I’m every single one… 🙁 I feel sad
My mom started to be narcissistic ever since my stepfather came in… All they do is cruse me out and blaming me for everything and not caring for what I do good… When I have kids… I’ll make sure they feel loved and happy… I won’t make them feel like how I am now… A depressed failure 😢
My mother was a verbal, emotional & physically abusive narc who scared the crap out of me for 17 years until I left home against her will. Now at age 63 I still suffer from PTSD, I’m overly sensitve to criticism & any kind of yelling & my whole career was nurturing: I was an elementary teacher. I learned to detach (& eventually from myself) from her in every way. I just ended an 8 year relationship with my 2nd narcissistic partner who was a full blown narc in every sense except for the cheating.
Just one narcissist as parent is enough for that. Low esteem of yourself, always apologizing even if you are not at fault, oversensitive, reserved child, phobia/fear of displeasing that parent (even if you may try showing that you are not afraid of them)
If this is helicopter parenting my dads a fucking Apache 😂
I’ve watch several videos off this channel in a row and I’ve come to the conclusion that my father has seriously fucked me up emotionally and now I’m sitting here crying.
My oldest sister is becoming extremely ambitious and thirsts for success. My brothers are very closed up and rarely talk. They have few friends, and they never express any emotions. The only thing I know about their personalities is that they like fortnite and they dress nicely and preppy. I am the youngest of the four, and I am very emotionally expressive, extremely nurturing, and very social.
just now, my mother yelled at me again. I did several chores that I was told I’d be paid for about a week ago, and I just now asked when I’d be paid. She stormed out of the room while yelling "why is it always about money for you?! Will you ever be grateful? You always want something from us!!" Then she shot me a glare and went to her room. As she yelled, I was saying "sorry, sorry, mom I’m really sorry I didn’t mean to make you upset you don’t have to pay me I’m sorry will you forgive me?"
I’m just now realizing that it isn’t my fault. All those years of being yelled at then ignored for a few hours when I try to talk to them might not be my fault.
Thank you for this video. I don’t know how I can tackle this, maybe I’ll just move out early, but at least now I know there’s a problem.
I understand this thing about narcissistic parenting, but sometimes I just couldn’t help but think that it was my fault for blaming my parents. I know they love me very much and they wouldn’t OF COURSE do harm to me on purpose. And putting aside emotional abuses, they did a lot of things for me and gave me a lot. Yes, mostly materialistic things and it doesn’t really help fill the emptiness in my chest, but they still did something to show their love. They showed their love in their ways. And this makes me blame myself for not being understandable enough to acknowledge their care. Often times I’m just stuck in this vicious cycle of self-hatred and no family or friends would hear me out.
Thanks for making this video tho, it really helps! My current biggest wish is not to be narcissistic when I grow up, and if I really do, then I’d rather not have kids so fewer kids would suffer from what I’m going through now.
i cant say much because am being watched but thanks for the video its very helpful
My exes mother was a hugely narcissistic person, she ruined both our lives. A truly horrible person
My parents were never aware of what they did, i can’t blame them. I just need to heel! ❤
It hurts to actually wake up and see what’s inside the box clearly. I still till this day beat myself up on wanting to feel good “Emotionally” and I can but I carry so much guilt on my shoulders and I constantly feel like I’m not good enough to be the person I’m suppose to be.
so my avoident persenality is caused by a narssistic parenting!!
both of my parents are narcissistic and egoists…..and I have 4/6 traits of this list
Knowing that the man I had to grow up wit is still alive makes me greatly nervous that he is planning to come and murder me, wouldn’t put it past him he’s already strangled me, almost cut off my all my right fingers at the age of 5, I might have PTSD. Fuck you Simon you’re a cheating cuck
My narcistic parent finds it strange that my brother and I have extremely little friends. They’re also question why all of my relationships fail and as to why my brother doesn’t even bother to go on dates at all.
So what if you absorb all negative comments and since you think you are basically worthless, you stop caring altogether
I really want to heal from my abuse…….my fear and my social handicaps make me hate myself even more. How can i heal from this?
my mom is a helicopter parent..
Times where my parents make me feel so bad that I think of ways I could kill myself and plan my whole will and funeral out.
if you have had parents like this…STRIKE BACK. that is what I did and now they have no job or friends and that DOES make me feel GOOD.