5 Examples of Toxic Parenting
5 Examples of Toxic Parenting
Are you dealing with toxic parents right now? In a past video, we talked about the signs of toxic parents, but what about the different types of toxic parents? Have you ever wondered what kind of parenting you grew up under? This video will not only help you identify the signs of toxic parents, but also the type of toxic family relationships you have with them, whether it’s a toxic mother or a toxic father.
Living with toxic parents can be detrimental to your mental health and it can damage your emotional and mental well-being. So, in this video, Psych2Go would like to talk about the 5 types of Toxic Parents.
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Related Videos:
7 Signs You Have Toxic Parents – Part 1 & 2
8 Toxic Things Parents Say To their Children
7 Things Toxic Parents Do
7 Signs of a Toxic Family
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Credits
Writer: Julian Heng
Script Editor: Isadora Ho & Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silverra
Animation: Maxine Gando
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong
References
Schiffrin, H., Liss, M., Miles-McLean, H., Geary, K., Erchull, M., & Tashner, T. (2013). Helping or Hovering? The Effects of Helicopter Parenting on College Students’ Well-Being. Journal of Child and Family Studies, 23(3), 548-557.
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Spratt, E., Friedenberg, S., LaRosa, A., Bellis, M., Macias, M., & Summer, A. et al. (2012). The Effects of Early Neglect on Cognitive, Language, and Behavioral Functioning in Childhood. Psychology, 03(02), 175-182.
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Parents today don’t believe in " I’m here now what is it? "
is making you feel guilty for standing up for yourself fall in the toxic parent? cause when i stood up for myself with my controlling step-mom one time, she tried making me feel guilty, even the very thought makes me wanna cry
I’m binge watching these videos cause I’m sick yet my mom left me alone,without food or checking how I feel. She’s mad that I missed school. It’s always school, school,school I could even be dying and she would still say I have to go to school
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Honestly my parents needs to be at least a little toxic because I haven’t been grounded for like years lmao
So, I have invasive parents… why I am not surprised. I am a 14 years old dude who now has a thing called "family link" attached to my *Google account and cellphone* they know my every move and thing I do, so now i hide my cellphone that they searched thought before installing the insult of Google family link. No joke just from hearing the word family I get shivers in my spine and remember that that word is the same thing as invasion, ignorance and disrespect. Thanks my dear friend you always calm me down with your voice.
1, 2, 3, 4 – mum
5 – dad
my parents are totally the invasive type, and they still expect me to talk about my problems and my life with them like no I’m not going to do that.
The nagging is the annoying
My parents split when I was little.. my mom is strict.. scolds me a lot but loves me. Her new husband .. she says he’s "sweet" I can hardly see that, he rarely anything for the house or helps my mom, when he can, he tells me to do his jobs( reasonable ones), and they now have a kid who is 4 yrs old now, they love him sure.. I felt envy on my brother until I saw that they scold him too.. but I know it’s not good to yell at kids or slap them.. once that husband slapped me.. I wanted to slap him back but I didn’t, I still think about it to this day. And my dad is way too indulgent, he is alcoholic. He drinks and eats his problems away. Also he is highly narcissistic and isn’t keeping the house well. He is very unreasonable and alcohol got to his brain.. He always gives of the vibe of "I’m better than you, you are a stupid child". We fight a lot because of the nonsense he talks.. he always picks up fights.. even now.. he made some food that I didn’t like and he started yelling and then left to drink some more.. I chose to come here in from 8th grade to me graduating a high school here. Back then I was little and didn’t understand his ways. Now I don’t know which would be worse.. to stay at my mom’s or dad’s.. At my mum’s I get very depressed.. having to stay by my brothers side all the time.. it’s annoying.. I’m 16 yrs old.. I want to do other things.. I’ve wasted 2 summers with that boy.. he is sweet.. but also agressive. Not surprising since he has a lot of guns and cars as toys.. and he and the husband fight sometimes(as a game) . And at my dad’s.. he pisses me off, I’ll just say it. He comes home late.. and just sleeps or sits around watching tv. I sometimes take his remote control because he’d do that all day if I didn’t. He puts off all his work. He does whatever I say.. if it doesn’t imply that he should spend a big sum of money or moving around. Everyone thinks I’m a good girl and sweet but I’m not really.. I’m an idiot and to top it off, I’m also rude.. I would love to go to a psychologist but I’m afraid of what they would think.. or that they would just take my parents side.
I saw the captions at the end and i feel sad forr you 🙁
My mom plays the victim card on me, plays favorites in my siblings, “tries to help”, but is really ignoring the problem, she’s understanding to my siblings and her students but not me, and she yells constantly. But, it’s not “real” (physical) abuse, so she can’t get in trouble, right? Idk what to do in this situation. I’m constantly in my room and only go downstairs for food and chores. I hate my house. It’s gotten to the point where I’ll sneak multiple snacks upstairs just so I don’t have to go downstairs.
Yeah, sadly, I can say I relate and the worst thing about it is that when I try to tell them my emotional/psicological problems they say im just emo, y’know? Just cuz I have long hair doesnt mean im emo
So, why are you describing my parents.
Are you stalking me.
Thanks a lot for this video 🙂 It helps me a lot if I ever had children
4 months ago but still relatable
Everything is the same for me
my mom’s verbally abusive and just comes back with "but all of it is true"
so like-
my mother is always cheking on my things and now that she found out i talk to people on internet she treats me like i’m a slut?????????
the first four are true. Only if they understood. ;(
Im just overreacting.. My parents are great. Im fine.. 😀
Hmmm my parents used to do this but after I tired to suicide 2 times they kinda understand and try to learn about my mental illness DO NOT DO THAT it’s bad
Whenever I tell my dad that I have a problem, he lectures me by basically telling me that I’ll be a failure when I grow up over and over. All he does is list my negative qualities. I feel a sort of need to have the best grades in the class so that my friends, teachers, and mother are proud of me. It’s nice, until you break down exactly why that is and what happens if I fail. I have cried in class during this school year more times than I can count, all because I’m terrified of not being good enough. My self-esteem is horrible. I depend on the opinions of others because I was never taught to love myself, I was only taught that not remembering things made me worthless. He’s also making me read books that I think are really boring to prepare for college. Reading is a hobby of mine, and I feel like he’s trying to take it from me. Also, I’m 12. Can we please not worry about college right now? The level I am at, which is slightly above my peers, is fine. Telling me all my negative traits does nothing but make me cry. My dad has asked me what does work, but I don’t know. However, what I do know is that if you can’t go forward, the worst thing to do is go backwards.
Support your child! Let them know that they can go on to do great things! Let your child be less than perfect! If your child is crying, stop doing whatever’s hurting them! Hint: If you’re telling them that they’re not going to get into a good college and that they’re going to be a failure when they grow up, that’s probably why.
omg literally last night i was up 30 minutes after my bed time and my dad yelled at me really loudly and he was so mad, and i turned around to put away my computer and i kid you not he goes
* "DONT ROLL YOUR EYES AT ME YOUNG LADY" * and i said "i didnt roll my eyes" and he replies with * "DONT LIE TO ME I SAW THAT" * and then i tried shifting realities but it didnt work 🙁
I don’t trust my parents because They Spank, Threaten beating and Cuss me and my sister out, and they do it for discipline, Which Cussing out, Spanking, and Threatening isn’t Discipline its abuse
You hit all except 5
Here’s mine:
my parents will buy so many stuff for me (basically spoiling me with classes) and enroll me some classes I’m not interested in like…guitar or this new coding class my dad put me in. my parents also put me in swimming which they think I’m interested in but lately i noticed how "muscled" my arms are and got self conscious. then if i will do a small mistake…THEY WILL COMPLAIN ABOUT IT I mean seriously!!! But I’m scared to even tell them that i wanna go acting because i know their gonna go like "YoU WanTeD It sO We EnRoLlEd yOu" then their gonna pay loads and loads of money then complain again and again!
so basically spoil me then pretty much complain how much they spoil me
One thing about my parents is that they:
-They Make empty promises
-They say Why can’t you be like your best friend/anybody
I don’t know my parents does this when I was 5 and younger, one time when I ate scrambled egg and couldn’t chew and told many times that my parent got a belt and told if I didn’t do I what they said they would do something and I was crying while eating trying to chew an egg. Another time, when I was eating two hotdogs I let my parent take a small bite and they wanted a big one, I was hungry. So I got to my room and my parent got a belt and hurt me on the side chest and it got purple color, my parent told me it was permitted, permitted for what? Not to grow up spoiled, but I am scared of my parents. Also they make empty promises, Please tell me this is normal or not in the philippines.😣😔
Not everybody in the family openly reaches out to other parts of them family some of you parents are taking way way too much credit. It’s not like surviving is easy or some sh*t.
My parents wonder why i don’t open up to them and yet do shit like:
-Not let us close our doors [by us, i mean me and my siblings]
(Or lack of privacy in this case, because they ALWAYS are in my business :/)
-ALWAYS is assuming something like “YOURE LOOKING ODD [body language] SO YOU MUST NOT GIVE A FUCK” for full context, my mom was scolding me [or something like that] just because i was ‘talking rudely to her when she asked about school’ and i was trying not to cry and looking at the floor]
-taking away stuff that brings me generally joy just bc my grades [my phone, watching anime, my switch, etc.]
{^ follow up to the thing above me}
-having high expectations of me and punishing me until school is over bc of my grades
-threatening to kick me out or kill me {my mom}
And funny thing is: I’m not even 13 yet 👹
{12 if you’re wondering my age}
Have any asian kid heard “I found you in the dumpster”.
Idk why but…., everything point is relatable except last one 😞
Is it ok for parent to let their bother or sister hit their child ?
my parents have been offending me 4 all my life, saying i’m rly stupid and non-independent person lol. Actually, when i was 11, i completely lost my trust in my mom after she took my phone and started reading my dm while i was sleeping 🤘🏿 every time i try to defend my rights or explain that they‘re wrong ‘bout smth, they immediately tell me to sh-t up 🤘🏿 Unfortunately, this happened quite often in families from Kazakhstan, coz adults believe that they’re “authority”, cause they’re older than you. It’s disgusting. Majority of adults don’t understand that their child have to have a personal space :<
(oh, my eng is bad…)
4/5 First question nope, But other than that *HaH* 🙁
This is literally my mom..
And I’m only 13
Me: **has studied music since 1st grade because i want to be a musician**
Dad: DOCTOR!! 😡
The Worst Thing Ever Said To Me Was When I Almost Got Shot From Walking Back From School and I Was Crying Which I Told My Dad and He Said
"Foolish Girl, You Took The Wrong Way and You Should’ve Took The Way Where No One Would Have A Gun, Stupid You Should’ve Died, That’s What You Get For Not Listening To Me."
This Happened Last Year and I Always Go To Sleep Rewinding The Scenario and Hearing It Repeat In My Head Make Me BLEED.
Im Sitting Here and My Parents are VERY TOXIC That Once I said Out loud I wanna Kill Myself then my Dad Called Me Dumb. My Dad Even Makes Fun Of Me For Being Short & Skinny. I have Anxiety, Depression and Suicidal Thoughts Which Is Worse That I Keep A Fake Smile On My Face Making People Think Im Always Happy. Everytime I Cry, My Dad Says That If I Cry He Is Gonna Slap Me Because Im Stupid. You Don’t Know How Much I Hate My Life in School and Home.
I remember the day when I got scolded by my dad and then slap some at my back with a Belt, the reason my dad slap me with a belt is because I got C instead an A which I HATE A LOOOOOT.
I have a quote for D and C student who got scolded, "If you scold them,their Brain IQ could decrease of you are giving them a hell of work, pressuring the Children is not the way to make an A, you just have to be kind and help them study together and even talk about YOUR FATHER lives and childhood before being a Father."
Pressuring the children won’t help but your just decreasing their IQ same as me.
In my childhood Stage 1 I got B with 6 ,Childhood Stage 2 I got B with 4 And C with 5,Childhood Stage 3 I got B with 1 And C with 6,Childhood Stage 4 (Today) I got C with 9.
This is why I hate GRADE with A,B,C,D,E.
That’s meaningless…
“There are children that are homeless and don’t have food. You should be grateful. We never hit you nor pressure you.” Sis-
is it rare if your parents tick four of the five boxes?.. asking for a friend
Unrelatable?
More like
RELATABLE
My grandma says:
"why can’t you be more social"
"why are you so fat"
"Why are you so sad"
"Why are you so ugly"
"Why can’t you be more like your sister"
"WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?"
my mom will only let me get A’s in school, if I get a B, I am grounded for three months
None of this is bad really its just how it is and im not trying to offend anyone but people are very sensitive sometimes
Me: *Gives a good argument point*
My parents: What I say goes! It doesn’t matter what you think! I gave birth to you, so you don’t give me attitude! ‘Goes on a rant’
Me: *Mom I’m depressed*
Mom: *It’s just a phase…and gives 5 hrs of lecture*
Me: *~Even more depressed now~*
This video: exists
Me 😢😭
Hey one question. Is it called toxic parenting if you’re already 15 and your mother beats you so bad that you are left with bruises for days? And on top of that, she calls you by rude names like ‘ useless garbage’ and that too because you argued with her for a good reason.
Yeah. That happens to me every week. That’s my life 😑
I can’t say what my dad is because the only times I see him is if we’re going somewhere. My mom is very verbaly abusive and she doesn’t have patience for me. She’s called me names and says she’ll stop. She likes control but never does anything to work for it so she uses words instead. She’s been physical when I’ve tried to talk about it but its hard not to get angry or upset.